welcome back bro!! congrats on the marriage stuff. glad you still have the gti. after driving more into LI/Queens with the big beast (07 altima v6 6 speed i got as a second car) recently, i am not sure how you still drive manual down there, but keep in mind i'm old and fat and less patient than when i was younger.
I still kind of prefer it but my commute is probably going to change drastically in about 6 months. My routes to work right now are kind of against the grain (or the better of two evils) during peak hours. I'm also only doing 11 miles about one way. That's going to increase just about double and going the worse of the two ways (in the AM east to west / PM west to east). Most of my leg is going to be on the 495 LIE too... I've seriously considered an HOV clean pass friendly car just to move on with life. The one downside I really see about this isn't so much the car, the transmission, or the pricing, but more or less that it seems like cars in the HOV lane are the first ones to get picked out and pulled over by the law enforcement (yes, even Prius). At this point I could probably realistically get 15.5 if I tried selling/trading in my GTI tomorrow. I kind of want to ride this thing out a little longer though.
If this is another bad winter on Long Island I may really start considering the compact SUV card as well. I'm already halfway there as this summer has been pretty bad with rain/flooding as well.
you'll pull through bro. unless you were able to push the wedding to later in next year (like in the spring/summer when most people get married), you should probably just plow through. look for deals on soup (preferably low sodium/organic-ish) and pasta. brand x canned veggies FTW!!
It's just kind of crazy to me because I've always been a bit of a saver with money but I feel like I got hands every which way asking for cash this year. My accounts probably have been as diminished as they ever have been since I first opened a savings account sometime in middle school/high school.
sounds worse than office space man. unless you're able to push the wedding forward a few months at least, i'd just try to plow through for now, as long as you're able to.
Overall if there's one takeaway from this - change your job and don't feel like you're stuck in it because of the wedding. Your personal well-being is far more important to you and should be to your fiance. You might already have some financial commitments wedding-wise that you can't get out of, but maybe there's a way to scale things down.
I had a feeling this would happen and people would side either way. I can really see the pros and cons of both but the problem is I'm not painting the picture too detailed. There's a lot more complications and variables... The wedding is a big part of concern but there are some light at the end of the tunnel moments with the job too in a positive way. Might save for painting a better picture at the end of the week but Tony yeah hit me up with a PM if you gotta - I'll def read it.
Pushing the wedding forward or backwards is not an option. I think I'll survive this and hopefully be able to laugh about this sometime in the near future... Right now the way I'm playing it out is kind of with fate. My linkedin and resume is updated- I've lightly perused some job openings and listed to recruiters that I can talk shop. If nothing draws to me I'll hold tight- if something is meant to be it'll find a way.